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A Time of Thanks

Published November 17, 2014 by Mayrbear's Lair

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A heartfelt thank you to everyone participating in Media Magic’s first Giving of Thanks Audiobook Collection Giveaway! We are deeply grateful for your continued support and celebrating this season of appreciation with us.

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Then, at the end of November, we will award ten lucky winners the entire collection of our accelerated learning business life audio book series! Good luck everyone!

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In the meantime, to honor a great teacher that has recently fallen ill, I was inspired to post a few articles this week that I published earlier this year. These posts were influenced by the gentle teachings on mindfulness, from Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, because the truth is, that many of his books have been instrumental in providing me tools on how to stay focused, balanced, and cope with stress in this wacky world we live in today. A world that includes food shortages, unemployment, natural disasters, and the shock and horror of war! Is it any wonder that so many of us are on the edge, stressed, and sleep deprived, struggling to manage anxiety and process emotional states of depression?

It seems that conflict, discontent, and corruption are found within every fold in the fabric of life all around us — in our communities, governments, spiritual and academic institutions, the workplace, and of course at home, away from the public’s awareness. The negative input individuals are constantly bombarded with from such conditions, have contributed to a collective consciousness of defensive people ready to engage in battle at the drop of a hat. Many are working diligently to suppress their feelings of deep rooted rage which continues to build as they process the added pressure exerted on them.

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As a result, many feel displaced and confused about their values or what their purpose in life is for that matter. This is one reason a person can lose focus at work leaving them vulnerable to making costly mistakes or engage in altercations with colleagues. Some even become confused over career aspirations while others are trying to discern who is authentic and trustworthy. Individuals that operate from this mindset risk advancing heightened levels of emotions which can eventually escalate into feelings of panic if they are not addressed. From this state of anxiety it is understandable how a person can travel down a corridor of darkness and despair unless they are able to find a way to manage their concerns in a healthy manner.

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In a corporate setting, managers that look away or allow this kind of behavior to go unchecked, not only risk creating more harm in an organizational setting, it may also lead that staff worker into believing they have no one to turn to for help, or worse, there is no one they feel safe enough to seek counsel from. When a sense of hopelessness reaches this level that individual also risks losing faith in their own abilities and intuitive reasoning. This is why many lose motivation to participate at work and eventually begin to feel the same about life in general, risking eventual self-destruction. At this stage the individual risks becoming so imbalanced they are unable to function productively and may even eventually lose their ability to cope or behave in an ethical manner.

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These are some of the outcomes that occur if growth strategies are not implemented.  In a business arena, the best growth strategy is a well-planned one. In fact, there are many studies to support that implementing growth strategies are more likely to yield positive outcomes as well as higher performance levels. Liker (2011) for example, postulates that growth strategies are implemented because they enable improvement considerably and in a shorter period of time. This is achieved by developing a framework that encourages perpetual growth which can help achieve some of the following outcomes: (a) a significant upper hand in operation excellence in a relatively short amount of time; (b) the development of systems that target and eliminate toxic behavior; (c) smoother operations with respect to receiving and delivering messages; and (d) the ability to adapt to changing environments rather than respond from a reactive position (Liker, 2011). In other words, effective growth strategies encourage continuous improvements while eliminating waste.

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In addition, growth strategies can play a role to help individuals establish and reach their desired destination. For example, when an individual plans for a road trip, without the use of a map or a GPS system to guide the traveler to their journey’s end, the navigation process can become more difficult. This is a good way to approach growth strategies – as the road maps that help with expansion to reach desired outcomes. Coulter (2010) suggests that growth strategies can help in the development process because they assist in locating and allocating resources that can transform the individual’s capabilities into distinctive functional competencies that others are unable to easily duplicate (Coulter, 2010). In short, effective growth strategies can help individuals achieve their goals quicker because they consist of focused detailed plans.

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By applying some of the growth strategy principles I discovered in my organizational management research work, which are compiled in my digital publications, I feel better equipped to weather and navigate through various emotional storm systems that emerge because these strategies are based on the scientifically proven principles of positive psychology. This approach has been significant in my own ability to work through moments of darkness as an effective tool to help minimize destructive outcomes, which continued to re-occur when enhanced emotions guided my actions.

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As we all have experienced at one time or another, when emotions are out of balance, it is difficult to perform at optimum levels because we put focus on input that works against our energetic current, rather than feeling gratitude for all that is flowing harmoniously in our world. In other words, by focusing only on what is not working in the world, or in our lives, it feels like we are trying to swim against a strong current rather than sail with it.

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Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh (2012) stated that once we learn how to manage enhanced emotions we can experience more rewarding relationships. In addition, keeping channels of communication open can also help us cultivate more joyful experiences in our lives (Hanh, 2012). Growth strategies offer us a different way to navigate through and manage challenging events more effectively without fueling the situation even further by focusing on negative thoughts or energy patterns.

That’s it for now! Until next time … stay organized!

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Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today. – Thich Nhat Hanh

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References:

Coulter, M. (2010). Strategic management in action (5th ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc.

Hanh, T. N. (2012). Work: How to find joy and meaning in each hour of the day. Berkeley, CA: Parallax Press

Liker, J. (2011). Design for Operational Excellence. New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.

Seasonal Break

Published October 27, 2014 by Mayrbear's Lair

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To prepare for her new position as the Publications Writer for the College of Southern Nevada’s Performing Arts Center, Mayr is taking a short break and will be back with new posts soon!

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Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. – Bruce Lee
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Ethics Audiobook Feedback

Published September 9, 2014 by Mayrbear's Lair

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The feedback is starting to come in for our audiobooks. Below is what one listener shared about their experience with our title Ethics in the Real World:

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes, I would! For it’s rich with deep and valuable knowledge about a topic that seemed familiar. Then I found various unconventional perspectives and angles. There’s always something new. That’s what I found with Ethics and Mayr Berry’s titles generally. She discussed many ideas and issues as early ethical influences, the rules in shaping the person’s character, the confusing experiences of having an original culture that is different from the one of the place you live in, and being tough values by people that don’t adopt them in real life, and the rule of the two factors in motivating the person to establish his or her own ethical values. I was reminded that it’s also important to improve our abilities to defend ourselves against the others’ unethical behavior. There’s also the character disorders, and how they cause unclear idea about what’s right and wrong. How they can lead to damages, sometimes are severe, in the person’s business and personal life. And how big corporations can be affected by the ethical standards and behavior of their leaders..

Which character – as performed by Mayr Berry – was your favorite?

Well, it’s not a novel, but there were several examples the narrator told to clarify her points. My favorite was the brave woman that, for the first time, stood up wisely against an unethical behavior at her work.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes, it was! For Mayr’s narration grabbed my attention, the theme of the audiobook was interesting, and for the examples she brought from her experiences in her business life, and from ethical situations big companies witnessed.

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Friday’s Vacation Week Treat

Published August 22, 2014 by Mayrbear's Lair

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Friday’s Vacation Treat

Live Every Day as if it Was a Friday

Dr. Malhorta suggests that we do not trade money for meaning in our lives. Instead we seek and find a career that gives us meaning and all the money that we need. Finding meaning is the only way to live every day as if it was a Friday.

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She continues that we cannot live our life just waiting for the weekend. We must find something that excites us. As Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “Do not die with your music still inside of you.”

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She suggests that it is our job in this life to find our music and go about the business of sharing it with the world. If we have not found our music yet, then we must keep searching. And finally, the good doctor subscribes that we do one thing everyday that makes us happy (Malhotra, 2014).

So from today forward, let’s be mindful to make it a Friday, every single day. What better day to begin than on a Friday! Have a great weekend everyone. We’ll see you back here next week!

Until then … stay organized!

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“I think we should be working for contentment . . . an inner sense of fulfillment that’s relatively independent of external circumstances.” ― Andrew Weil

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References:

Smita Malhotra, M. (2014, July 16). 8 lessons I want to teach my daughter. Retrieved August 17, 2014, from The Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/smita-malhotra/eight-lessons-i-want-to-teach-my-daughter_b_5565037.html

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Ethics and Coping Strategies

Published August 1, 2014 by Mayrbear's Lair

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When an individual is feeling confident and well-balanced, that person is capable of reacting and responding to unexpected events in a more understanding fashion, and can even perhaps find humor from the experience. On Wednesday’s post, we looked at how emotions can go from calm to ballistic by looking at the story of the mom whose toddler transformed their bathroom into the kind of chaotic condition that one would expect to see had Bugs Bunny’s Tasmanian devil paid them a brief visit. Using that incident as an example, we determined that from a calm state of mind, a parent is better equipped to understand that in that situation, the child was merely exploring to learn more about their environment. In other words, this is typical behavior for children that age. Knowing this, the parent can respond lovingly, taking accountability for the risk they took in choosing to leave a small child alone. However, like many parents with young children, they are typically overtasked and shorthanded on help. A scene like that is enough to heighten anyone’s emotional being (especially if they are sleep deprived). From a state of heightened emotions, the parent may feel so overwhelmed already that this additional incident can lead the individual towards a nervous breakdown–which, in turn, may prompt that caretaker to respond from a place of anger and thereby release negative energy on the small child, who was innocently occupied in age-typical behavior.

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In my book, Ethics in the Real World (2013), I explained that how we respond or react to unplanned events that heighten our emotions can have a profound effect on our outcomes. In other words, when we choose to react to an unexpected situation emotionally and without thinking, we risk contaminating the situation even further. Therefore, regardless of our emotional states of mind, when faced with any unforeseen event, there are many effective coping skills we can utilize for help. The first step is to stop, take a moment or a deep breath, and allow for time to calm down before saying anything that can cause more hurt feelings or contaminate the situation even further. Of course, the initial priority in responding is to make sure everyone involved is safe and there is no present danger. Once the situation has been briefly assessed and any possible dangers or threats have been eliminated, the next plan of attack is the inevitable, cleaning up the mess and devising a plan to address the situation that heightened the emotions. By taking a moment to think before acting, the individual can respond more logically to a crisis at hand. Then, once the situation feels more under control, order can be restored, and all parties involved eventually will return to a calmed state.

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When a person feels steamed about a situation or has issues with another individual, they do their best to manage the dilemma and the emotions that accompany it, working hard to find solutions. Sometimes, however, there are those instances when they believe the harder they try, the worse it gets. Meanwhile, their emotions continue to escalate, leaving them in a state of helplessness and unable to come up with solutions. In this frame of mind, they are overwhelmed, even making comments like, “It’s just not my day.” Then there are instances when they become illogical and out of control spewing comments like, “This is the worst day of my life!” In this frame of mind, heightened emotions typically lead to further despair, leaving many tumbling in a downward spiral. In short, the individual feels like they are experiencing nothing more than one failure after another in everything and anything they attempt, no matter how hard they focus to change or improve the situation, nothing seems to work.

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It is under these conditions that Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh (2013) suggests we retreat to our inner home and engage in practices that will lead to our own emotional tidying up. In other words, this is when we can go to that island of self we discussed in Wednesday’s post, to find sanctuary and more clarity for the dilemmas we may face. A simple strategy–for instance, like being mindful of in-and-out breathing–is one effective coping skill that can help us manage heightened emotions. Hanh purports that these strategies help focus the mind in the present moment. They serve as relaxation tools which been successful for communities like Plum Village for stress management and calming emotions.

By incorporating strategies that nurture us when we are feeling lost, we are building a culture of happier people. Strategists agree that people who are happy are more inclined to perform at optimum levels–which, in the long term, contributes to better outcomes for the entire community. In other words, by practicing coping skills that help enable individuals acknowledge and recognize their strong emotions, people are better equipped to process and work through them without creating more challenges–whether they stem from fear, anger, anxiety, or despair. To sum up, whatever strong emotions we are confronted with, once we acknowledge and recognize them, we can implement coping strategies to help us manage them in the same way loving parents do when a child is upset and in distress: by embracing them tenderly and then, step-by-step, applying a coping skill strategy we feel comfortable with, to manage the emotional upheaval. In other words, respond to ourselves as loving parents when we become emotionally out of balance.

Well … that’s a wrap for this week. Have a great weekend everyone!

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“You are a Divine Being and within you dwells the infinite wisdom of the ages.” ―Anthon St. Maarten

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References:

Berry, M. A. (2013). Ethics in the Real World. USA: Kindle Direct Publishing.

Hanh, T. N. (2012). Work: How to find joy and meaning in each hour of the day. Berkeley, CA: Parallax Press.

Ethics, and Strong Emotions that Emerge from the Island of Self

Published July 30, 2014 by Mayrbear's Lair

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Legend suggests that when Buddha was 80 years old, knowing his days were numbered, he shared with his students a practice that introduced them to the island of self. It was developed based on a concept that there is a safe place–an island, if you will–that dwells within each of us. It is a place of inner sanctuary that we can return to any time we are feeling afraid, unstable, or in despair. In other words, Buddha was instructing his students to go within to what he called home, and identified this safe place of the mind and spirit as the island of self.

In his book Work: How to Find Joy and Meaning in Each Hour of the Day (2013), Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh explains that this place dwells within each and every one of us. Based on this premise Hanh has developed techniques to help the community members of Plum Village enhance their coping skills. These practices are used as tools to help provide a kind of refuge when community members are processing deep emotional despair or sorrow. In this context, the island of self is identified as a sacred place of the heart — one that each of us has access to whenever we need to find a place to go to and feel safe during those times when emotions are heightened. What is beautiful about this construct is that the island of self is just one moment away. Hanh further asserts that when we engage in practices of awareness, such as mindful breathing or mindful walking (as we discussed in last week’s blog posts), these serve as ethical strategies that help us feel safe by returning home to the island of self, straightaway, at any time and any place (Hanh, 2012). These and other practices help encourage and support an ethical culture which I discuss in further detail the the eBook, Ethics in the Real World (2013)

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To help explain with more clarity what we can do when we are feeling emotionally out of control in our own daily lives, let us examine the following example: a mother is confronted with an unexpected situation after her young toddler’s brief visit to the bathroom. As a result of leaving the child alone for a few minutes to answer the phone, the mom returns to the scene, and what she discovers leaves her feeling overwhelmed with emotions and on the verge of losing control. The washroom has now been decorated with toilet paper in every corner; water spilling out like a river, breaching the barriers of the sink; baby shampoo knocked on its side, pouring a waterfall of goo down the cupboards; and toothpaste creatively smeared all over the mirrors and counter tops. In short, the chaotic condition of the bathroom was enough to make anyone’s hair stand up!

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The truth is that the parent is now faced with a situation that requires them to parent their own emotions. For example, when a baby needs comforting, is in distress and crying, tuned in parents respond immediately to the situation. Hanh explains that during these moments the infant is experiencing the energy of suffering. The caretaker’s natural response to this energy of suffering is to provide the energy of nurturing, tenderness, and compassion, perhaps by lovingly caressing the baby in their arms. This nurturing energy slowly penetrates the tot’s body and, in turn, assists to bring the small child back to a place of peace and comfort.

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As a coping strategy during times of despair, Hanh suggests that we try to process our heightened states of emotion and fear as a parent would responding to the suffering energy of a baby. In other words, return home to the island of self and take care of our baby, the energy of suffering by implementing the energy of mindfulness. One way to achieve this is using the in-and-out breathing practice that was described in last week’s posts. The mindfulness energy is meant to represent the role of a nurturing parent that helps in the calming process. By taking care of the baby (the out-of-control feelings that can drive imbalanced behavior), with the energy of mindfulness we generate, we are in a better position to return us to a place of stability which will then allow us see the situation with more awareness and clarity. Hanh compares this mindfulness energy to the heat produced by a cozy fireplace which is meant to help us relax. The warmth acts as a catalyst, which in turn helps us to feel better when we are cold and miserable.

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Hanh, like other self help leaders, further explains that our emotions are important components and an essential part of our personal growth. We do not need to suppress them. Rather than feeling guilty or bad about having strong or negative emotions, he postulates that we must not only acknowledge they exist, but also accept them as an essential a part of the human experience. Once we acknowledge this premise we can then work to refrain from fighting or judging them. In other words, rather than ignore or snuff out our fears, anger, and anxiety, we can instead accept that they are there and implement practices of mindfulness to honor and work through them. In conclusion, when we acknowledge strong emotions, create a safe place to process them with helpful coping skills, they can be managed more effectively.

On Friday, we will examine how to develop effective coping skills strategies in the work place when we are faced with situations or co-workers that trigger strong emotions which spiral out of control. Until then, stay organized!

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“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.”  – Robert Fulghum

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References:

Berry, M. A. (2013). Ethics in the Real World. USA: Kindle Direct Publishing.

Hanh, T. N. (2012). Work: How to find joy and meaning in each hour of the day. Berkeley, CA: Parallax Press.

What is the Right Fit?

Published June 20, 2014 by Mayrbear's Lair

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For many individuals, the search for the ideal partner, group or organization to work for will most likely not happen in their first experience. If it does, most experts would agree it was a fluke! According to Baack (2012) it takes time and several goes at jobs to discover what that individual really wants from that partner, group or company (Baack, 2012). For example, an individual that values social interaction the most, will seek a person, group, or consider working at a firm where they can have that kind of experience. A person on the other hand, who is only interested in climbing the corporate ladder to achieve personal wealth and status, will pursue opportunities that can fulfill those desires.

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When an individual finds that perfect person-organizational fit, they are more likely to encounter many positive benefits from that experience. Most strategists will agree that part of career management requires a certain level of personal awareness with respect to what an individual believes is important. After that has been identified, then they can move forward to seek the best organization that will meet their criteria. In other words, conducting an assessment on one’s self is part of finding the right fit. In truth, how can you find the right fit, if you don’t really know what you want?

In my eBook, Ethics in the Real World (2013) I share several examples from my own career experiences of some of the barriers I discovered from my own inabilities. Not recognizing these barriers at the time, presented obstacles when making the right fit with partners and organizations. During my research work, I also discovered that mismatches typically occur for some of the following reasons: (a) a lack of self-awareness, (b) not having the knowledge, or a higher level of education to provide the tools needed to comprehend the right course to pursue, and (c) not understanding all the components required to create a fertile environment to help achieve that perfect organizational fit. What is just as important to acknowledge, however, is that while the search to find and secure the ideal connection is significant to our health and well being, we must also remember to make the best of each situation we confront along the way, because the learning experience of the journey is just as important as reaching the destination itself.

That’s it for this week. Have a great weekend everyone and stay organized!

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If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough. – Albert Einstein

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