Interpersonal relationship

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Facing Conflicts

Published October 19, 2015 by Mayrbear's Lair


Are you, like many others, frustrated and tired of finding solutions to manage various conflicts, then discover you must face them again, repeatedly? That question was the inspiration for this week’s posts as we take a closer look into the nature of conflicts and how effective leaders are able to come up successful resolutions. In our research work, we will also examine whether a model exists that can yield more effective methods for achieving positives outcomes that are in alignment with reaching organizational goals; regardless of whether they are new challenges or the same ones that are recycled over and over again.


To begin our analysis, we must first acknowledge that today’s global marketplace is multifaceted and culturally diverse. The atmosphere consists of people from assorted backgrounds and belief systems that come together in a work environment. It’s only natural that conflicts will arise when issues develop due to personalities that clash over a variety of reasons including: (a) ethnocentrism, (b) lack of trust between parties, (c) breakdown of communication systems, (d) workplace bullying, (e) interpersonal and intrapersonal conflicts, (f) ethical incompetence, and (g) lack of emotional intelligence, to name a few.


In addition, conflict in a work arena also prevents workers from experiencing job satisfaction. In his book, Personal Conflict, Daniel Dana (2001) purports that, “Good decision-making helps to prevent conflict” (p. 2). In other words, leaders who can identify the source and level of a conflict, are in a better position to use this information to address problematic issues effectively and successfully to avoid consequences like employees who lack motivation, the slowing of productivity, and most important, damaging relationships which can ultimately lead to the dissolution of an organization.


On Wednesday, we continue our discussion by conducting a closer analysis into the nature of a conflict as we cite and examine a few scenarios that helped contribute to the development of problematic issues. In addition, we will also examine how these problems may have been avoided with practices of accountability and transparency from more effective leadership. Until then … keep working on finding positive solutions and stay organized!


“Conflict can and should be handled constructively; when it is, relationships benefit. Conflict avoidance is *not* the hallmark of a good relationship. On the contrary, it is a symptom of serious problems and of poor communication.”  ― Harriet B. Braiker,


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Dana, D. (2001). Conflict Resolution (1st ed., p. 2). Madison, WI: CWL Publishing Enterprises.

Active Listening

Published December 23, 2012 by Mayrbear's Lair


In my experience, most people are not good listeners. My extensive training as a performer emerges when I communicate. I become animated with verbal intonations, hand gestures and body language to communicate a message effectively. That being said, I still have issues in message delivery. The truth is, if someone does not value or want to hear what you have to say, they will not engage in active listening.

Company Policy Book Shows Rules For Employees

Organizations can do a lot to improve the listening skills of employees. When a new recruit is hired it’s customary to go over company policies with them. Some corporations even provide a detailed handbook that outlines acceptable parameters of conduct.

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Assessing Communication Skills

Published December 22, 2012 by Mayrbear's Lair

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Time after time, I seem to experience situations where communicating to someone clearly feels impossible.  Now that our culture has become more globalized, it is imperative we analyze our communication skills to insure successful delivery and receipt.  Evaluation of message transmitting skills plays a significant role in the development of effective communication.


To begin, training and experience in communication is extremely important in broadcasting a message effectively.  A person of power who is comfortable in a leadership position, like motivational guru Anthony Robbins, can make communicating seem fun, effortless, and like second nature. In his book Unlimited Power Robbins (1986) states, “What we do in life is determined by how we communicate to ourselves” (p. 8).  He coaches people to develop their use of personal power as a science to personal achievement.  Learning how to assess our communication skills will help us understand how to communicate more effectively so it won’t lead to tainted working and personal relationships.


In addition, we are not always aware of our own shortcomings.  I recently participated in a short quiz to analyze my communication skills as part of an assignment.  I am delighted the results concluded I’m quite the capable communicator – two points away from what they considered excellent skills.  Quite honestly I’m surprised the result was that favorable. It seems as of late, that effective communication has not been my forte.


In the professional arena, I seem to manage famously. Issues ensue more frequently on a personal level within my inner circle of friends.  The primary cause of these disruptions is called noise (Baack 2009).  I am beginning to recognize more notably how barrier noise, like a friend texting on a smart phone for example, while we’re conversing, affects our relationships. Furthermore, I can look at these barriers to help me recognize what my own nonverbal cues are transmitting, when I’m not being concise in delivering messages, or aware for that matter how they are received.


For example, one of the most important relationships in my life is with my teenager.

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Reducing Communication Barriers

Published December 22, 2012 by Mayrbear's Lair

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An important form of communication in business and personal relationships is the one-to-one contact, known as interpersonal communication, where some kind of exchange occurs between two or more people – friends, colleagues, clients, agencies, and a wide variety of others on a day to day basis. To be an effective communicator, it is essential to establish positive and friendly relationships.

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To improve the likelihood that communication will be received and understood as I intended, a good place to start is to identify the individual differences between us which include age, gender, educational level, and personality. Women are more likely to employ more expressive and effusive language. Males tend to use more direct language (Baack, 2012). Although gender clearly plays a role, Baack’s statement can be better defined in the context of male and female archetypes, as I have work experience with both aggressive women and passive men.

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Baack, D. (2012). Management communication. San Diego: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.