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Active Listening

Published December 23, 2012 by Mayrbear's Lair


In my experience, most people are not good listeners. My extensive training as a performer emerges when I communicate. I become animated with verbal intonations, hand gestures and body language to communicate a message effectively. That being said, I still have issues in message delivery. The truth is, if someone does not value or want to hear what you have to say, they will not engage in active listening.

Company Policy Book Shows Rules For Employees

Organizations can do a lot to improve the listening skills of employees. When a new recruit is hired it’s customary to go over company policies with them. Some corporations even provide a detailed handbook that outlines acceptable parameters of conduct.

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Assessing Communication Skills

Published December 22, 2012 by Mayrbear's Lair

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Time after time, I seem to experience situations where communicating to someone clearly feels impossible.  Now that our culture has become more globalized, it is imperative we analyze our communication skills to insure successful delivery and receipt.  Evaluation of message transmitting skills plays a significant role in the development of effective communication.


To begin, training and experience in communication is extremely important in broadcasting a message effectively.  A person of power who is comfortable in a leadership position, like motivational guru Anthony Robbins, can make communicating seem fun, effortless, and like second nature. In his book Unlimited Power Robbins (1986) states, “What we do in life is determined by how we communicate to ourselves” (p. 8).  He coaches people to develop their use of personal power as a science to personal achievement.  Learning how to assess our communication skills will help us understand how to communicate more effectively so it won’t lead to tainted working and personal relationships.


In addition, we are not always aware of our own shortcomings.  I recently participated in a short quiz to analyze my communication skills as part of an assignment.  I am delighted the results concluded I’m quite the capable communicator – two points away from what they considered excellent skills.  Quite honestly I’m surprised the result was that favorable. It seems as of late, that effective communication has not been my forte.


In the professional arena, I seem to manage famously. Issues ensue more frequently on a personal level within my inner circle of friends.  The primary cause of these disruptions is called noise (Baack 2009).  I am beginning to recognize more notably how barrier noise, like a friend texting on a smart phone for example, while we’re conversing, affects our relationships. Furthermore, I can look at these barriers to help me recognize what my own nonverbal cues are transmitting, when I’m not being concise in delivering messages, or aware for that matter how they are received.


For example, one of the most important relationships in my life is with my teenager.

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